Created to be His Help Meet!!!!

Hello my blog friends ..... as I posted a few days back I am now reading a great book called "Created to be His Help Meet" Chapter One is titled "God's Gift" :
A wise woman doesn't take anything for granted. She is thankful to be loved and seeks to make herself more lovely.
It is a gift to be a Help Meet AND TO BE BLESSED WITH A HUSBAND for that I am thankful.
God gave Adam the most precious gift a man can receive - a woman. "And the Lord God said, It
is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him." (Gen. 2:18)
"Brought her unto the man" (Gen. 2:22) " Whoso findeth a wife findetha good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22)
We as wives were created to fill a need, and in that capacity you are a "good thing" a helper suited to the needs of a man. Gals when we are the help meet to our husbands as we are called to be we are also a helper to Christ doing as we were created as a wife to do. "A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband" (Proverbs 12:4)
Our divine calling as wives is not that of how the world views women as doing just as the man does our roles however are to come alongside our men and help them to do the job God has created them to do loving and respecting him as he is.
In this book there is a "TIME TO CONSIDER" section almost like the Love Dare has challenges and work to do. In today's it says let's get Serious with God locate in the word the following traits/words as they relate to women of God and ask God to work each of these attributes into your character:
1) Virtue
2)Graciousness
3)Wisdom
4)Prudence
5)Goodness
It goes on to say a Good Help Meet has a Passion to be in service, Our first calling (outside of God) is to be in service to our husbands, then our children, and WHEN TIME AFFORDS,her passion of service will spill over into serving others.
Father, thank you for my husband in which you have blessed me with going on 12 years married 13 together Praise God.....Lord I ask you to work each of the mentioned attributes out in my character as well making me a Godly help meet that would build my husband up and not tear him down.FATHER GOD please place in my heart that servant's heart toward my husband ,that I might reach out to him in Love and not in flesh and help me to remember it is only by YOUR loving grace I AM EVEN SAVED and Father please continue to strengthen our marriage and help me to make the changes I need to make rather than pointing out his changes I am called to be his Help Meet NOT HIS HOLY SPIRIT.............. Father bless all whom come across my blog in Jesus Name Amen
Until Next Time,
Faithfully Serving God,
Cindy Bolt

Adjusting to God's Plan ........and not my own!!

MATTHEW 4:18-22
19 "Then He said to them,"Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men." 20 They immediately left their nets and followed Him.

Wow no questions asked they just dropped their nets and followed .......so WHY cant I follow Him when he asks me to???? I will in time however it isnt immediately as did the men in these verses. The Lord has in the last few months asked me to do some things in which have been rather challenging however I am learning to adjust to His plan you see the Lord doesn't change His plan to suit me or my purposes instead however He asks of me (and you) to align our lives to His will alone. The Lord has asked of me to modify or change the way my family has done something for over 10 years now and this has been taxing to say the least however I do know I am to trust and obey even when it makes no sense what He is asking. Saying yes to Him has meant seeing friends and being social less frequently and being home bound more often which all that know me know this is VERY HARD for me to do. I do know however that in trusting Him and obeying Him He promises a great return on any sacrifice we make(Matt. 19:29) I know God's plan is the best plan so why the hesitation well change is hard I think even harder when you really dont expect it you know......However I do know that I know God's plan's for my family is based upon His goodness and Love and Mercy for us. I love the song Trust and Obey the lyrics that say:
Trust and obey , for there's no other way To be happy in Jesus, but to trust and obey. Lord may I trust and obey as you carry me through another season in life.
I shall meditate upon these comforting verses:
"TRUST IN THE LORD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, AND LEAN NOT ON YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING; IN ALL YOUR WAYS ACKNOWLEDGE HIM, AND HE SHALL DIRECT YOUR PATHS. Proverbs 3:5-6

Father I thank you so much for the changes you bring and though hard and I have found our most recent changes to be difficult I know you are in control and are growing us and molding us making our family into the family Of God in which you see fit. Father give me strength to trust and obey and to shut out all outside advise and opinions and only focus on your still small voice in all our upcoming decisions in which need to be made Father I ask you to guide, direct, and protect my family and may we adapt to any and all changes you send our way In Jesus Name Amen

Until Next time,
Cindy

Done with the Love Dare Now What???

Wow ....... so I found myself asking mmmmmm what shall I do next it seems easy enough when you are following a great devotion book and it is sorta holding you accountable so to speak before the Lord and now I have finished now what?? Well I stumbled upon a great book I have already read and the title is: "CREATED TO BE HIS HELP MEET" by : Debi Pearl it is a great book she doesn't leave anything out or sugar coat our roles as God Fearing wives and filling the roles the Lord has intended for us to fill as wives. I have decideded to reread this book to kinda fill the spot of reading the book I had been doing. I will share as I am led today I came across the page first thing opened to page 228 and it is titled ABC'S OF BEING A HELP MEET:

A. Admit when you are wrong
B. Be positive
C. cuddle
D. Do it his way
E. Encourage him
F. Fix His breakfast
G. Give back rubs
H. Hug often
I. I love you , should be said many times daily
J. Joke around in a playful manner
K. Know his needs
L. Listen to him
M. Manage your home well
N. Never hold grudges
O. open your eyes in the morning and smile
P. Pray for him
Q. Quit nagging him
R. Reminisce about good ole times
S. Show respect and honor
T. Trust, and earn his trust
U. Understand his need for reverence
V. Vulnerability is a feminine trait; cultivate it
W. Wink at him
X. is for private times(woohoo)
Y. Yearn to please him
Z. Zealously guard him with your love
Awesome isnt it I was reminded of ways I ought to be encourageing him along every step of the way so I am encouraged myself to follow these things on a daily basis tall order to fill however
"ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE WITH AN AMAZING GOD " AMEN
May God bless us in our marriages and may we just love on our hubby's and encourage them to be their very best.

Until Next Time,
Cindy Bolt

Love Dare # 40

Hello sorry I have seemed as though I was MIA (missing in action) I have to be honest it has been a hard few days for me emotionally I am tossed up about being done with the Love Dare as well as mom's group wrapping up in a month or so and Bible studies wrapping up for summer I have sat this one out so by the time it comes again it will seem as though a lifetime has gone by as well as not being involved in an active homeschool group for the first time ever in which has been somewhat of a challenge for our family however Lord is in control AMEN and AMEN.
So just an odd season I have found myself in and trying to adjust A BIT.
Let me wrap up with the last day of the Love Dare.................................

Day 40 "Love is a Covenant"
Well they start the devotion out by congratulating me for making it through the Love Dare journey woohoo this day really talks about the commitment we have made to our spouses and to look at it as what it is a covenant and NOT a CONTRACT because contracts can be broken at anytime and a covenant is intended to be unbreakable. the devotion today was awesome talking about how marriage is the strongest covenant on earth between two people .
I am praying on how I will do today's Love Dare it says;
"Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present. Make it a living testament to the value
of marriage in God's eyes and the high honor of being one with your mate."

well this is awesome idea and as I said I am praying for what to do in our marriage would it be private or publicly mmmmmmmmmmmmm must ponder that!!

God Bless you all on your journey's for a better Godly marriage may God bless each of us. Jesus Name Amen

Until next time,
His servant,
Cindy Bolt

Day 39...... WOW

Can you believe on day 39 already ??? I dont know if I want to be done ironic I know I remember first starting this and not wanting to continue and now my friend's I dont want it to end.
Love Endures-
"Love never fails." 1Corinthians 13:8
As the devotion says ,"Of all the things love dares to do this is the ultimate.
Though thretened, it keeps pursuing. Though challenged, it keeps moving forward. Though mistreated and rejected, it refuses to give up. Love never fails.
Often when marriages are in crises we want to give up especially when our spouse seems to not budge .
LOVE if it is REALLY LOVE doesnt waffle when it's not received the way we want it to be received. If love can be told to Quit loving, then it is not really Love at all. Love that is from God is unending and unstoppable. If the other party doesn't choose to receive it, love keeps giving anyway.
Love Never Fails......................
NEVER
Jesus ' love for us is unconditional and this is how we are to Love ALL THOSE IN OUR LIVES starting with our mates. we dont love because of anything they do or do not do we simple love because Christ first loved us.

Today's Love Dare was this:
Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what. Leave it in a place that your
mate will find it.
Father thank you for this challenging yet amazing journey I have been on through this Love Dare you have taken us on we have come a long way and by no means have arrived however we do have a stronger marriage then ever before and I thank you for that. Help me be obedient to you and your word may I live by it moment by moment of everyday. Father I lift up to you now all the marriages who are now going through this Love Dare challenge I ask you to give them strength in the times where it is easier to give up yet may they be encouraged to see it through and reap the blessings because of it. Father I now ask these things in Jesus Holy Name, Amen.

Until Next Time,
Your servant in the Lord,
Cindy

Day 38 LOVE FULFILLS DREAMS....................

I will usually not blog on Sunday's ever....... however I believe it is Lord Led as well as having permission from hubby he has had to work on his car ALL day yesterday and part of today have to do what we have to do so that free's me up to blog for a second so here it goes God Bless!!

" Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart." Psalm 37:4
What is something your spouse would really, really love? And how often do we ask ourselves this question????? I have to be honest as I read this I thought to myself wow I dont know and I dont think I ever have sad yet truth. The devotion for this day had said it is common sense we cant give our spouses everything they may want however have we allowed no to become our response to their wants and desires everytime???? Love sometimes needs to be extravagant. To just go all out. Love sometimes needs to forget the technicalities and just bless because it wants to. We also need to not just do it to do it but to put our whole heart into it. Dreams and desires come in all shapes and sizes. But LOVE takes careful notice of each one.

.Love calls you to listen to what your mate is saying and hoping for.

.Love calls you to remember the things that are unique to your relationship, the pleasures and enjoyments that bring a smile to the other's face.

. Love calls you to give when it would be alot more convenient to wait.

. And LOVE calls you to daydream about these opportunities so regularly that their desires become yours as well.

The book says : we dare you to think in terms of overwhelming your spouse with LOVE.

Today's Love Dare: Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer , and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.

Father may we all just seek to please our mates and meeting their hearts desires and not only thinking of how they can meet ours may we go into this next week seeking to know our mates better and really seeking what it is they truly do desire in their hearts. May you kiss every marriage on the foreheads of each mate and bless them , Lord draw nearer to us all as we draw nearer to you my Lord....... In Jesus Name Amen

Until Next Time,
humble servant,
Cindy Bolt

Day 36 and Day 37

Hello my friends I apologize for the delay in sharing life had gotten in the way it was awesome though not complaining however I have not posted since last Thursday I have however kept up with the LOVE DARE I am only going to share two for today though because otherwise it will make for a VERY long reading.
DAY 36 "Love is God's Word"
"Your word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path." Psalm 119:105
In this devotion it speaks of the importance of being in the word ,first and foremost ourselves however also finding a time you may read the word together as a couple. The three main points the devotion points out are as follows:
1) BE IN IT - meaning to be in the word no matter how long 10 minutes or a couple of hours it is not so much the amount of time as it is just making sure it becomes a habit to seek Him first each day period. We can only love as Christ loves and in order to have that to give back we need to be soaking it up in His word on a daily basis. His word should become to us " more desirable than gold" (psalm 19:10) .
2)STAY UNDER IT- we need to be in church as that covering staying under that authority His word is at times very deep and we need the teaching through sermons at times to allow the word to be explained in detail where we may not have understood it on our own also it is needed for accountability as well as coming together in fellowship with likeminded believers going down the same journey as you in this life.
3)LIVE IT- that we would not just be hearers of His word but doers also (James 1:22)
Those around us are always watching the world ,families, husbands, children, we ourselves need to be living out the word of God I think especially in our marriages we tend to right away point the finger and blame instead of laying ourselves aside and seeking after the Lord first and allowing Him to take care of Hubby's.
Today's Love Dare was to if your not already doing it commit yourselves to reading the word of God everyday for at least 10 minutes a day and then asking your Hubby if you two can maybe read a bit together............

ok now this brings me to DAY 37-
Love Agrees in Prayer:
"If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My
Father." Matt. 18:19
So for me this is so very hard isnt that weird I have NO PROBLEM praying in front of a crowd or kids or family or friends but with my own hubby seems so very foreign to me sad but true for some strange reason. The love dare devotion for today states that one thing that would significantly change our marriages is praying together as a couple. We are joined together in the most intimate of ways so how can we not feel the need to pray with husbands??? mmmmm good question I just dont know why maybe we dont want to show them our weakest moments maybe
there is deep bitterness toward our spouses enabling us to be comfortable to pray with them maybe they are not walking whatever the case I pray we can get there. I have started over last few weeks and I have to tell you we have grown closer than ever before and Greg knows more of an idea of where I am coming from in certain areas of my walk or life issues as well as I know his
with work or kids and challenges he has that I never thought about asking and he never thought about sharing however when your real and open praying together before the Lord these issues freely come out it is amazing. I have to say I will be very honest as the book says as well at first this felt very awkward and uncomfortable however the more we do it the less awkward and the more intimate our relationship is becoming it is wonderful.
TODAY"S LOVE DARE WAS :
Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together. Talk about the best time to do this, whether
it's in the morning, your lunch hour, or before bedtime. Use this time to commit your concerns,
disagreements, and needs before the Lord. Don't forget to thank Him for His provision and blessings. Even if your spouse refuses to do this, resolve to spend this daily time in Prayer yourself.

Father I PRAY YOU WOULD WORK in the hearts of everyone whom may not want to do this and bring each couple together in a time of prayer and sharing, we know your word says where two or more are gathered you are in our midst so may we all gather as a couple lifting up our request, concerns, and disagreements unto you and in doing this may each of our marriages grow more intimate and stronger in you as we allow you to be at the head of our lives Praise your holy name Lord Jesus Amen

Until Next Time,
Your Humble Servant,
Cindy