I know Bible study struck many of our cords tonight and ruffled feathers it is however the very word of the Lord. For those of you who read my blog and are not in mom's bible study the topic was on submission to our husband yes the good old S word ! you see ladies I believe that we do have a choice on how are life plays out you can go at it kicking and screaming and miss out on what the Lord has for you or you can choose to obey and recieve what He has for you and your marriage. I will share a little of my own personal struggle with this area ,you see I grew up in a home with an alcoholic father who was abusive to my mother and I told myself I will Never ever allow a man to tell ME WHAT TO DO LET ALONE SUBMIT YEAH RIGHT!! well did I find out the hard way the Lord had different plans for my life. In the first part of my marriage when I was walking and Greg wasn't I had conversations with God but but he is not obeying so WHY do I submit I dont want too. Well you see God's word commands that we do and it is not conditional based on their actions and behavior so as this started to unfold I DUG MY HEALS IN let me tell you. I would see him making poor decisions I knew were wrong and going to hurt our family and I wanted to take control and the Lord said no no no! you see when I did take control we were now both out of the covering of the Lord and missing out on blessings He would have for us. Also my husband shared with me at one point that when I try to take charge I tear him down which really is the last thing I wanted to be doing . Ladies it is God's plan for us to have heavenly marriages and the way to obtaining this is by following His divine order for our families He has set this up with Adam and Eve . As our Bible Study books shared God is first then our husbands and so on. I am thankful for that covering . when we are submitting to our hubby's we are being the helpmeet we are called to be and being obedient to God. God has made us to be a help meet not the one in control when we try to take that control our households are out of that divine order. I love what our book said this does not make us inferior to our husbands nor do we lose our dignity we just have different functions and our homes can only function well when we are doing our part and WHEN OUR HUSBANDS OUR NOT WE LOOK TO GOD TO FILL THE GAP WE DONT TRY TO FILL THE GAP. GOD STANDS BY US WHEN WE STAND BY OUR MAN. Ladies I am not telling you this is easy because I have been there and have experienced both sides submitting and not and I tell you what I prefer to submit and know I have the covering of not only my husband but My Lord who loves me and cares for me and just as CHRIST HUMBLED HIMSELF AT THE CROSS TO TAKE ON OUR SINS SOMETHING HE DIDNT DESERVE HOW MUCH MORE SHOULD WE OURSELVES HUMBLE OURSELVES AND SUBMIT TO OUR HUSBANDS ? I also want to share that when I tryed to wear the pants and not submit I hurt my hubby in the process and now that my focus is on GOD my husband can see that in me and He starts to seek after the Lord more and how God would have him bless me which has been awesome for our marriage.
I also have learned to pray that the Lord would change my heart toward my husband make me grateful and thankful for my husband and trust in you Lord to do the work in myself and my husband. I never would have said this a year ago however look what God can do I now cherish my time with my Husband and want to submit to him. The Lord does amazing things when we just TRUST AND OBEY it really is BLACK AND WHITE easy no however it is made harder when we try to take the control God did not intend for us to have. I encourage you with a scripture I love and the Lord has given me to get through many a trials :
"AND LET US NOT GROW WEARY WHILE DOING GOOD, FOR IN DUE SEASON WE SHALL REAP IF WE DO NOT LOSE HEART " Gal.6:9
My prayer for each of us is to not lose heart as we submit to our husbands no matter our situation with our husbands.
I wanted to come back in and add some scriptures in God's word that speaks on this very subject: "WIVES BE SUBJECT TO YOUR OWN HUSBANDS AS TO THE LORD."EPH.5:22
"WIVES,LIKEWISE,BE SUBMISSIVE TO YOUR OWN HUSBANDS, THAT EVEN IF SOME DO NOT OBEY THE WORD, THEY WITHOUT A WORD,MAY BE WON BY THEIR WIVES"1PETER 3:1
"WIVES, SUBMIT TO YOUR OWN HUSBANDS, AS IS FITTING TO THE LORD."COL.3:18
ICOR. 11:3 TALKS ABOUT THE DIVINE ORDER THE HEAD COVERINGS
"I WANT YOU TO KNOW THAT THE HEAD OF EVERY MAN IS CHRIST, THE HEAD OF WOMAN IS MAN,AND THE HEAD OF CHRIST IS GOD.
THE PART WHERE I SHARED CHRIST HUMBLED HIMSELF TO DEATH SO HOW MUCH MORE SHOULD WE HUMBLE OURSELVES TO OBEY IS FOUND IN PHIL.2:5-8
ALSO TO REMIND YOU ALL SOMETHING THAT WAS SAID LAST NIGHT OUR HUSBANDS ARE TO LOVE US AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH EPH.5:22-33
THAT IS A HUGE RESPONSIBILITY
ALSO WE FIND MORE ON HEAD COVERING IN 1 COR.11:7-9 TO REVIEW OUR ROLES AS WIVES.
I WANT TO ALSO INFORM YOU OF A RESOURCE TO FIND SCRIPTURES IT IS BIBLE GATEWAY .COM YOU CAN FIND IT IN MY SIDE BAR AND CLICK IT, AND JUST ENCOURAGE YOU TO DIVE NOSE DEEP INTO THE VERY WORD OF GOD IT REALLY IS THE LIVING, ACTIVE, WORD OF TRUTH AND OUR WHOLE LIVES ARE MAPPED OUT INSIDE THE WORD OF GOD WE JUST NEED TO CHOOSE TO FOLLOW NO MATTER THE COST. I ALSO WANT TO LEAVE YOU THIS SCRIPTURE: LOVE BEARS ALL THINGS ,BELIEVES ALL THINGS, HOPES ALL THINGS, ENDURES ALL THINGS. 1COR.13:7
I also want to recommend a fabulous book that really put into light my role as a submissive wife it is titled: "CREATED TO BE HIS HELP MEET" by : Debi Pearl
This book is awesome. Ladies just know you are not alone and this study was not to condemn any of us but to guide us in our roles as Christian wives. I encourage you if this is something you struggle with and is tough issue for you get a prayer partner someone to hold you accountable and pray for you and encourage you. God bless you all and I pray the Lord continues to mold us into His image.
My prayer now is that the Lord God would give all of us a continual love for our husbands that it would cause our very inner parts to obey and submit and trust God to do the rest !
God bless you all Good night!!!!
In His Grace and Mercy,